Hi, everyone, I am Dr. Sheryl Ziegler. I am so happy to be a part of HER Health Collective. I’m going to introduce myself, and then my topic for the day. I am the author of Mommy Burnout. I am a doctor of psychology and I like to speak about stress and burnout and parenting. I am also the host of Dr. Sheryl’s Pod Couch. And I have a newsletter that’s called Notes from the Couch, which talks about the things that I’m seeing in my private practice. I’m based out of Denver, Colorado, and I’ve also been doing an online course, just this past year, of a course that I’ve been doing here for a long time, many years, called Start with the Talk. That is a parent child puberty class that prepares tweens and young teens for the transition into puberty, middle school, and the physical, social and emotional changes that occur there. Feel free to check me out, you can find me on social media and on my website, DrSherylZiegler.com.
So what I’m going to do today is talk to you about the importance of self care. When we hear the word self care, we often think, going to a spa or having a bubble bath or something that’s indulgent. In our culture, we’ve somehow gotten the message that self care is maybe even a selfish word. What I’m here to say is that when I was writing Mommy Burnout, and the subtitle to it is “how to reclaim your life and raise healthier children in the process.” The reason why I have that title is because the better that we can take care of ourselves, the better we can take care of our children. I think by now you’ve probably seen posts and things about that. But this is your five minutes today to just breathe. And think about what it is that you need, it could be so simple as I need to stop eating while I’m standing up. I need to just go to the bathroom more often. I need to be able to take a shower every morning.
Self care, particularly when you are a mom, is something that changes dramatically from what it used to be defined as. One of the things I want to share is self care in relation to the stress cycle. I have been doing this talk and it’s been well received. I’m going to share a little portion of it with you, which is talking about the stress cycle.
If we look at stressors, and then in the cycle there’s our reaction to the stress, that could be a loss of sleep, it could be reactivity, irritability, whatever that might be. We have the stressor, we have our reaction to the stress, then we have the wear and tear on our body. That’s where we might have an upset stomach, we might have pains in our shoulders, we might be carrying that stress in our body, that’s pretty common. And then you start to, when you’re still in the stress cycle, you disconnect from nature, you disconnect from your basic needs a lot of times, so you’re feeling these stresses, you’re feeling it in your body, and then you’re starting to disconnect, because we think that if we can power through things, that maybe the way to get through it.
What we know is that if you do that you get to this increased sensitivity distress. So that might be where you are hyper reactive, or you know, the straw that broke the camel’s back. Somebody said one more thing, and you just exploded. And if we don’t actually complete the stress cycle, and we remain in it, we just know that goes round and round and round with different stressors.
So I’m really here to share with you seven of the top ways backed by research that we know can disrupt the stress cycle. By doing some very basic self care skills that really makes a difference.
I wanted to give you a quick dose today with five minutes of thinking about self care and reducing the stress cycle. Thank you so much. I look forward to connecting with you all again.
Dr. Sheryl Ziegler holds a Doctorate in Psychology and is a Licensed Professional Counselor in the state of Colorado. She is a member of the American Psychological Association and the Colorado Association for Play Therapy. Dr. Ziegler is the best-selling author of Mommy Burnout, the podcast host of Dr. Sheryl’s PodCouch, a regular national and local news contributor and runs a private group practice in Denver, CO. Dr. Ziegler is also a national and international presenter on topics related to stress, parenting, mental health and burnout as well as a Tedx speaker. She has treated thousands of children, tweens, teens, and their families with a broad range of issues such as anxiety, depression, trauma, bullying, self-harm, divorce, social skills, and overall life adjustments.
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