Conversation Circle: The Cure for Burnout

Join us for a discussion of Emily and Amelia Nagoski TED Talk: The Cure for Burnout (hint: it isn’t self-care)
About this event
Our conversation circle is like a book club, but without requiring any prep work! We will watch a short video together and then discuss. Perfect for the mom looking for an intellectual conversation, but not feeling like committing to reading a whole book by a certain date! 😉

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You may be experiencing burnout and not even know it, say authors (and sisters) Emily and Amelia Nagoski. In an introspective and deeply relatable conversation, they detail three telltale signs that stress is getting the best of you — and share actionable ways to feel safe in your own body when you’re burning out. (This conversation, hosted by TED curator Cloe Shasha Brooks, is part of TED’s “How to Deal with Difficult Feelings” series.)

Join us as we watch Emily and Amelia Nagoski’s 20 minute TED Talk on The Cure for Burnout and then discuss!

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This event is free and open to any mom that would like to join the conversation. Non-HER Circle Members, please RSVP in Eventbrite. Members can find the meeting link on the private group page or in the Monday Member Email.

Book Club – Burnout: The Secret of Unlocking the Stress Cycle

Join us for our June Book Club discussion of Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle
About this event
NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • “This book is a gift! I’ve been practicing their strategies, and it’s a total game-changer.”—Brené Brown, PhD, author of the #1 New York Times bestseller Dare to Lead

This groundbreaking book explains why women experience burnout differently than men—and provides a simple, science-based plan to help women minimize stress, manage emotions, and live a more joyful life.

Burnout. Many women in America have experienced it. What’s expected of women and what it’s really like to be a woman in today’s world are two very different things—and women exhaust themselves trying to close the gap between them. How can you “love your body” when every magazine cover has ten diet tips for becoming “your best self”? How do you “lean in” at work when you’re already operating at 110 percent and aren’t recognized for it? How can you live happily and healthily in a sexist world that is constantly telling you you’re too fat, too needy, too noisy, and too selfish?

Sisters Emily Nagoski, PhD, and Amelia Nagoski, DMA, are here to help end the cycle of feeling overwhelmed and exhausted. Instead of asking us to ignore the very real obstacles and societal pressures that stand between women and well-being, they explain with compassion and optimism what we’re up against—and show us how to fight back. In these pages you’ll learn

• what you can do to complete the biological stress cycle—and return your body to a state of relaxation

• how to manage the “monitor” in your brain that regulates the emotion of frustration

• how the Bikini Industrial Complex makes it difficult for women to love their bodies—and how to defend yourself against it

• why rest, human connection, and befriending your inner critic are keys to recovering and preventing burnout

With the help of eye-opening science, prescriptive advice, and helpful worksheets and exercises, all women will find something transformative in these pages—and will be empowered to create positive change. Emily and Amelia aren’t here to preach the broad platitudes of expensive self-care or insist that we strive for the impossible goal of “having it all.” Instead, they tell us that we are enough, just as we are—and that wellness, true wellness, is within our reach.

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Please join us for our discussion of this wonderful book. Even if you are unable to complete the book, please pop in to listen to what is sure to be a great conversation.

This event is free and open to the public. Please RSVP in Eventbrite to receive the meeting link.

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HER Circle members remember to support a small business and snag your book from Read With Me Raleigh and use your HER Circle member discount!

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Not a member of HER Circle yet? What are you waiting for? We’d love to have you!

Our fun, supportive community of women is the perfect way to build your circle of mom friends, take time for yourself, and gain access to the expert information you care about most. Many of our events are virtual and provide you with a place to connect with like-minded women, build authentic friendships, and connect with trusted experts to get your most pressing questions answered!

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Beyond the Screen Time Battle

It’s a new world. Kids growing up now have a completely different world versus generations of the past. We have new technology and the brain is being exposed to stimuli we’ve never experienced before. As a heart-based attachment parenting coach, one of Paula Kettula’s major concerns is the erosion of the parent-child relationship and social skills due to screen time’s impact. Paula provides insight on how to move beyond screen time battles.

Conversation Circle: Prioritizing Mom

Join us for our June virtual Conversation Circle as we discuss the PBS article It’s Time to Recognize the Damage of Childbirth, doctors and mothers say.

Please read the article and then join us online for a discussion of the article. It’s sure to be a topic many moms feel passionate about and we can’t wait to hear your thoughts.

This event is free and open to any mom that wants to join the conversation.

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Please RSVP in Eventbrite to receive the meeting link. HER Circle members do not need to RSVP in Eventbrite.

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Not a member of HER Circle yet? What are you waiting for?

We’d love to have you!

Our fun, supportive community of women is the perfect way to build your circle of mom friends, take time for yourself, and gain access to the expert information you care about most. Many of our events are virtual and provide you with a place to connect with like-minded women, build authentic friendships, and connect with trusted experts to get your most pressing questions answered!

Join the waitlist and be the first to know when we’ve re-opened the doors to new members!

Visit the link in our bio to learn more about HER Circle and how to join our Waitlist!

Book Club: Year of Yes

Join us for our May Book Club discussion of “Year of Yes” by Shonda Rhimes!
About this Event
The instant New York Times bestseller from the creator of Grey’s Anatomy and Scandal and executive producer of How to Get Away With Murder shares how saying YES changed her life. “As fun to read as Rhimes’s TV series are to watch” (Los Angeles Times).

She’s the creator and producer of some of the most groundbreaking and audacious shows on television today. Her iconic characters live boldly and speak their minds. So who would suspect that Shonda Rhimes is an introvert? That she hired a publicist so she could avoid public appearances? That she suffered panic attacks before media interviews?

With three children at home and three hit television shows, it was easy for Shonda to say she was simply too busy. But in truth, she was also afraid. And then, over Thanksgiving dinner, her sister muttered something that was both a wake up and a call to arms: You never say yes to anything. Shonda knew she had to embrace the challenge: for one year, she would say YES to everything that scared her.

This poignant, intimate, and hilarious memoir explores Shonda’s life before her Year of Yes—from her nerdy, book-loving childhood to her devotion to creating television characters who reflected the world she saw around her. The book chronicles her life after her Year of Yes had begun—when Shonda forced herself out of the house and onto the stage; when she learned to explore, empower, applaud, and love her truest self. Yes.

“Honest, raw, and revelatory” (The Washington Post), this wildly candid and compulsively readable book reveals how the mega talented Shonda Rhimes finally achieved badassery worthy of a Shondaland character. Best of all, she “can help motivate even the most determined homebody to get out and try something new” (Chicago Tribune).

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Please join us for our discussion of this wonderful book. Even if you are unable to complete the book, please pop in to listen to what is sure to be a great conversation.

This event is free and open to the public. Please RSVP in Eventbrite to receive the meeting link.

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HER Circle members remember to support a small business and snag your book from Read With Me Raleigh and use your HER Circle member discount!

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Not a member of HER Circle yet? What are you waiting for? We’d love to have you!

Our fun, supportive community of women is the perfect way to build your circle of mom friends, take time for yourself, and gain access to the expert information you care about most. Many of our events are virtual and provide you with a place to connect with like-minded women, build authentic friendships, and connect with trusted experts to get your most pressing questions answered!

Join the waitlist and be the first to know when we’ve re-opened the doors to new members!

Conversation Circle: Exploration of Anti-Asian Racism in the US

Join us for our April Conversation Circle as we discuss three short NPR episodes on the issues of Anti-Asian Racism in the US.
About this Event
Listen to the three NPR clips linked below (approximately 23 minutes total) and then join your fellow moms for a discussion of this very important topic.

The History Of Anti-Asian Sentiment In The U.S (4 minutes)

NPR’s Ailsa Chang talks with Dale Minami, lawyer and former Asian American studies professor at U.C. Berkeley, about the history of anti-Asian sentiment in the United States.

For Asian American Women, Misogyny And Racism Are Inseparable, Sociologist Says (8 minutes)

The implication that racism and sexism are two separate motivations has prompted outrage among Asian American women who say the two have always been inseparable in their experience — especially so in the context of the recent surge in anti-Asian attacks.

It’s Been a Minute: A History Of Anti-Asian Racism (listen to first 11 minutes)

In the wake of Tuesday’s mass shooting in Atlanta, guest host Ayesha Rascoe talks to critical race theorist and professor Jennifer Ho about the history behind anti-Asian racism and what it means to be an Asian woman in America.

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This event is free and open to any mom that would like to join in the conversation. Please RSVP in Eventbrite to receive the meeting room link.

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Not a member of HER Circle yet? What are you waiting for? We’d love to have you!

Our fun, supportive community of women is the perfect way to build your circle of mom friends, take time for yourself, and gain access to the expert information you care about most. Many of our events are virtual and provide you with a place to connect with like-minded women, build authentic friendships, and connect with trusted experts to get your most pressing questions answered!

Join the waitlist and be the first to know when we’ve re-opened the doors to new members!

Conversation Circle: Maternal Care, Race & Mortality

Join us for our March Conversation Circle as we discuss two TED Talks on the issues of Maternal Care, Race, & Mortality.
About this Event
View the two TED Talks linked below (approximately 27 minutes total) and then join your fellow moms for a discussion of this very important topic.

Miriam Zoila Pérez’s TED Talk: How Does Racism Affect Pregnant Women And Babies?

Why do pregnant women of color have different health outcomes from their white counterparts? Writer and activist Miriam Zoila Pérez explains the ways racism manifests for these women and their babies.

Miriam Zoila Pérez is a writer, trained doula, and activist focused on race, health, and gender. Pérez is the founder of the blog Radical Doula, the author of The Radical Doula Guide, and the co-host of the podcasts Tonic and Radio Menea. Pérez advocates for methods that can help diminish disparities in maternal health for women of color. In her TED Talk, she specifically focuses on the work of Jennie Joseph (The JJ Way®), a midwife who provides prenatal care through her Orlando clinic.

Wanda Irving TED Talk: How the US Medical Community Fails Black Mothers

Maternal Care Reformer Wanda Irving had her life turned upside down when she lost her only daughter, Shalon Irving, at the hands of “the covert bias of her medical provider.” As Wanda explains, “that very bias, fueled by structural racism, is the root cause of disparities in health care. That very bias impacted Shalon’s outcome, and caused her to be included in the maternal mortality statistics for 2017.”

In her powerful TEDMED Talk, “How the US medical community fails Black mothers”, Wanda reveals the horrific statistics that feed into the systemic disparities which result in Black women dying at rates almost 300% higher than White women. Today, over 3 years later, Wanda is working to promote accountability measures in postpartum care bills and she invites us to use the full range of our resources to eliminate inequity.

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This event is free and open to any mom that would like to join in the conversation. Please RSVP in Eventbrite to receive the meeting room link.

The Fire Engines of Postpartum Anxiety

By all accounts, I knew we had what most would consider a relatively easy baby. But, you’d never know that based on how I was handling life at that point.

Helping Children Deal With Grief

We cannot protect our children from ever feeling the pain of loss but we can help them manage the pain and express their emotions. Nicole Wallace discusses how to identify the signs of grief at different age ranges, engaging your child in healthy forms of grief expression, ways to encourage conversations about grief with children.

Stress, Hormones & Immunity

Our healthcare system is broken. We are doing the same things and expecting different results. Our focus has been on diagnosing and treating the problem, not discovering the root cause.